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Good Bye 1146 Lullwater Rd

Posted By on September 18, 2020

Today my parents are closing on the sale of their house. 

They have owned it for 48 years.

It is the house I grew up in from the age of eight.

copyright Don O’Shea (for the VI: this is the front of the house seen through azalea bushes of red and white. It is a yellow brick house with white trim with a big lawn with large trees and bushes all around it. There are three sets of windows on the second floor. Two sets of windows then the white front door then another set of windows with a screened porch not visible due to a large bush)

Yes, it was as amazing as it looks. It was a large house with lots of room for a family with four children. The backyard had a badminton court that we also used for croquette. We had a basketball hoop and learned a lot about physics due to the slight decline of the driveway that would lead to the ball bouncing into the neighbor’s yard unless you caught it. Sean had a tree house that my father built that he shared with us. We had the structure as we called it which was a very clever piece of construction that my dad created after we went to Helen Georgia because I had to write a report about it. It was a great yard for us. Down the street we had a friend who had a scaled baseball field that we played so many games on.

copyright Don O’Shea

(for the VI: This is the basement. The floor is red. The brick walls are white. On the wall is BASE then a series of shelves MENT in red)

This is was our playroom. We created entire worlds while playing what got coined junk games. We made tents out of old bedspreads. We created forts to defend. Mary Aileen and I created an entire scenario about a horse farm in that space. It was only limited by our imagination.

copyright Don O’Shea

(For the VI: This is the basement from a different angle looking into the wood shop. In the room you can see a mental table on top of a set of drawers.)

The shop will always have a special place in my heart. It is where I learned the fundamentals of wood working under my father’s tutelage. It is where I created parts for my first puppets. It is where Sean started playing around with plexiglass and created amazing things. It is where my father created cloisonne pins. It was a creative nexus in the house.

copyright Don O’Shea

(For the VI: This is the kitchen looking out towards the breakfast nook. The cabinet covers are tan with white behind it. There is a stove with cabinets on either side. The floor is tile with a brown, white, grey swirl pattern.)

The kitchen is where I learned to cook. My mother made sure that all her children left the house with the fundamentals under their belt. This was where I had long conversations with my mother as she prepared dinner. This is where I fried my first egg and made my first meatloaf. This is where my mother created thousands of meals for the family. She fed us well. Overtime she became a gourmet cook that gave us lots of taste experiences. This is where she would assemble the eggs benedict that we would have twice a year (Easter and Christmas).

copyright Kathleen O’Shea David

(for the VI; This is my mother. She is wearing a red sweater and a white apron. In front of her are plates of assembled egg benedict and she is putting hollandaise sauce on them.)

(for the VI: this is the west wing with the doors open looking out onto the backyard with its green lawn, trees and blooming azaleas)

My parents put an addition onto the house that we dubbed the west wing since it was facing west. It was originally created for my maternal grandmother to move into but she decided not to use it. It has housed at one point or another all the children for various reasons. It has its own bathroom and shower which is why we all moved in there at one point or another. It is where the Christmas Tree lived, and Caroline has many pleasant memories of opening presents there. It was where we went to talk because there were enough seats for everyone. It is where my parents held their annual cookie party. It became the family room.

(For the VI:Our Christmas Tree with lights, tinsel, and ornaments. It is in front of the doors in the previous photo)

(For the VI: this is the living room looking towards the den. There are lots of floor to ceiling bookshelves. The floor is wood parquet. The walls are white. On the left side you can see the fireplace.)

This is where, when I was a child, our music system was set up. I used to sit with headphones and listen to my music while reading. My parents renovated it to add bookshelves, so they had enough room for their books. It became the formal living room for company.

The den had the same kind of bookshelves with all our Asterix and Tintin books on the lowest shelf of the bookcase on the right. The den was the TV room. The only one in the house. Which limited what we could watch. Remember this was before DVRs and even VHS machines. Looking back, it was for the best.

(for the VI: This is a screened in porch with a red brick floor)

The screen porch is where we had many a dinner. There was a rocker seat and lawn chairs as well. It was another space we assembled in to talk and eat. It was a lovely place to unwind. I have many pleasant memories of birthdays celebrated. Breakfasts consumed with the paper in front of us. Dinners eaten with conversations that rambled all over the place. 

I will do more about the formal gardens tomorrow.

I am grateful I got to grow up in this house.

RTBCKI Just Another Day

Posted By on September 17, 2020

The meld of the days continues. 

We do have a little more structure, but I still feel a bit at loose ends overall.

Today Caroline is remotely learning things. That gives her control of her time and how she uses it. She is good at time management, so this works for her. I feel sorry for all the parents who have children that need the school structure to learn. I know I am very lucky in that regard.

Five years ago, today Peter went to NYC to the BBC America and got Missy to Michele Gomez who loved the puppet and gave Peter a big hug. I got mine about a year later. 

(For the VI: This is a black and white photo of Michele Gomez holding her Missy puppet with the moderator standing to the right. Behind her on the screen it says (re)turns this Saturday then the BBC America logo underneath.)

This led to a disheveled Norrington from Pirates of the Caribbean being made because she is married to Jack Davenport and their child had so much fun creating adventures with Missy. 

(For the VI: On the left is Michele Gomez wearing cat ears making a kissy face at the Norrington puppet with is very scruffy.)

It is one of those fun things that has happened in my life because of the puppets.

I filled out the paperwork for the job. Now I am waiting to see when they want me to come in and get oriented. Then I start work and happy to have it.

Because of that I find myself getting some things done around the house Kind of a clean up before I start.

I plan on keeping that up today.

We have a couple of other things we need to do as well. 

There is supposed to be some rain this evening which we do need. I think it might miss us again and the north shore will get hit. That is the current pattern.

My brain is hopping around this morning from thought to thought. I call this my squirrel brain. I know I have it settled when I can focus and do Sudoku. 

 I read John Cleese’s new book “Creativity: A Short and Cheerful Guide” in less than an hour but it was well worth it. Much of what he writes I already do but he gave me another way to think about creativity and how the creative brain works. 

It was nice to read a paper book again. I have been reading so much online/electronically. I feel like it takes some different mental muscles to read a paper book. I cannot explain it, but I know it to be true for me.

Bowling did not go well. We were giving away over 200 sticks which is basically giving the other team a fourth bowler. On top of that we had someone, who is bowling for average, bowled crappy last week but holds a 150 average normally, so he killed us with a series of strikes. The rest of the team bowled over their averages as well so there was no catching up with them.

Yesterday marks a year since Pheobe joined our clouder of cats. She was socialized with other cats from the time she was a kitten therefor she integrated pretty seamlessly into the group. She has proven to be an affectionate and amusing animal with a big personality in her little body. We are glad she is in our lives. I love my kitten hugs from her or waking up with her asleep on top of me totally content. 

I think I am going to go make a paper list of things I need/want to do and see what I can get done.

I am grateful that we have Phoebe, Mewlan, Inky, and Fig in our lives.

Six Months into the COVID-19 pandemic

Posted By on September 16, 2020

184 days since this all started here in New York.

We had 75 days of 2020 before this all hit, and the world turned upside down.

So, we have been dealing with this for over twice the amount of time than before we knew what we were dealing with.

We have learned how to protect ourselves. Masks, hand washing, and being aware of your health and the health around you.

It doesn’t mean that I am not leery about going out in public. I have worked to not feel like I am going to panic when I have to deal with the populous at large. And I get angry when I see people not taking precautions or wearing their mask wrong or not at all. If everyone just followed the rules/guidelines, we would be done with this. Instead we are the laughingstock of the world.

I have learned a lot these past six months about myself and my family. I discovered a resilience that I thought I had lost. 

Caroline and I have grown closer together as mother and daughter. Our daily walks are important to both of us. We have learned a lot about each other through them. I have been able to tell her stories of my life and growing up in Atlanta. We have talked about conventions and cosplay. We plan out what we are going to do. 

I finally found a six pack of my favorite paper towel just when I was down to one roll from the last mega pack I bought back in February. I can find our preferred toilet paper. Recently I can find a couple of items that have not been on the shelves since they sold out in March. 

I prefer dining outdoors as it is safe than within the restaurant. Even safer is not dining out at all.

I have lost twenty pounds since this all started. Consistent exercise and a lot less beer in my diet helped a lot. I want to keep this up and see how low I can go. Recently my local YMCA re-opened the weight room which is my favorite room in the gym. There are a lot of rules, but I can make it work. 

Caroline has lost waist and all her clothes fit loose on her.  She has worked hard to get to this point and plans on continuing this.

I have found t-shirts that were a bit tight around the waist that are no longer so.

That is one of the few positives I take out of the last six months.

It has been frustrating time with just a much uncertainty of what is next as we had six months ago. 

I take my little victories as I can and just deal with the rest of it.

Let’s be safe out there and take care of yourself and each other.

We can get through this together but only if we work together.

I am grateful that New York got this under control to a point.

Crafty Tuesday Place Saver

Posted By on September 15, 2020

I have a job interview this morning, so this is a place saver just to keep my streak running.

Wish me luck.

I am grateful that I got a job interview

LATER

Well that went well. Pending on background check, I have a job. Which feels dámņ good. It is seasonal but can go to permanent since they need people like me. It is sort of like I am dating my job to see if we want to commit.

This week was a lot of clean up on projects I have started. I have moved a couple to the next step and started two new ones.

I hope by next week to have my revised website and some new pieces posted around the internet for sale.

But first I need to reclaim my space so I can work in it. I have let it slide through a couple of projects but now I need to clean it up for the next project.

There are times I wish I had someone to clean up after me, but I am an adult now and know I have to clean up my messes.

I am grateful for a job offer for something I am good at.

MMHCI: A Bit of Normal

Posted By on September 14, 2020

Today Caroline went to school. Peter drove her to minimize contact that she would have on the bus. We will pick her up. But she is at school which gives her a little bit of the old normal.

We had our bowling league on Wednesday which again was a little piece of normal.

Our local Y is open including the all-important weight-lifting area. I plan on getting back to that this week along with our daily walks. A piece of normal drops into place.

As these happen, I feel a little like Schrödinger’s Cat in that normal and not normal are happening at the same time. 

Which leads to mixed emotions about everything.

I might get some more normal in my life as I have a job interview after not even getting that for about two years now. I have been applying around to local businesses and the like and there has been silence or being told that I am overqualified for the position or they hired within. Which means my resume is being used to justify that the person within is right for the job.

That is very frustrating. Now I do have a shot at a job that I would excel at and it is not seasonal, but it is part time which is probably the best fit for me right now.

I have health insurance through Peter’s job, so I am OK on that. 

I am working my way to my new normal on so many levels. 

This will change once we have the virus under control. 

Today I am going to work on cleaning up from the past couple of projects Caroline and I have been working on. I want to get the room back to what it was before we turned it into the sewing room/craft space. Creating normalcy.

Mentally I am OK right now. I am just trying to figure out what is the new normal for me and for those around me.

I am grateful for bits and pieces of normal that are back in my life.