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A Rare Weekend Home

Posted By on October 11, 2019

Caroline has a very full social calendar but Peter and I are able to stay put.

Next week Peter is off to a convention and Caroline has some activities as well.

The end of this year is a little more full than last year. Peter has a number of conventions until December, which is a month of activity for us anyway.

It has been very windy for the past two days and we have coastal flood warnings with pop-up showers. Everyone is making sure that their property is secure. There are a lot of limbs and leaves. The trees are still green with only a few showing the change to fall which feels a little late this year.

I have the usual list of things to do but we also have the Halloween set up to do. I haven’t been able to do so because of the wind. Once I have everything set up and tied down, I don’t worry about the wind. I have an indoor display for this year as well since it is the 50th anniversary of the Haunted Mansion, which is my favorite ride in any of the Disney parks. 

Next year Scary Godmother will be the theme.

I am grateful for having a creative brain.

World Mental Health Day 2019

Posted By on October 10, 2019

This year’s theme is Suicide Prevention. 

According to the World Health Organization, every 40 seconds someone loses their life to suicide.

Think about that. By the time you finish reading to this point someone has killed himself or herself. Not attempted to but succeeded. Who knows how many attempts are in those 40 seconds.

I know a lot of people who have attempted suicide and a number that have succeeded. I am happy for those who are still here and sad that those who succeeded didn’t find the help they needed to keep them on this planet.

The WHO started this day to bring out of the shadows issues in mental health in hopes to help people and start a conversation. In the past the themes have been mental health in the work place and depression among many others.

This one is a bit more of a hot button because it is a frank discussion of something that seems to be only spoken about in hushed tones in the dark.

I have heard suicide described as a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

When one is suicidal, there doesn’t seem to be an up or an out available. It can be overwhelming.

When I was feeling suicidal, I couldn’t see that what I thought was an insurmountable problem was only a temporary bump in the road. Looking back I can see why I would think that at the time but glad that I got past it and continued on my journey.

When I look at what I would have missed if I had succeeded, I am so grateful that I didn’t. The biggest being that there would be no Caroline in the world and I really think that the world would be a darker place without her.

This past Monday I went to a celebration of Stan Lee’s life and an after party where I caught up with a lot of friends that I would never had made if I had ended my life.

There is so much that I have to look forward in my life. So many adventures that I know I will have.  I am in a good place for the most part right now and when things take a dark turn, I hold onto that hope and knowledge that it will get better.

I am grateful I didn’t succeed.

Monday Morning Musings Kitty Politics

Posted By on October 7, 2019

This morning we had a round of what is the pecking order with various cats expressing their displeasure at other cats. Phoebe started it going after Inky who was having none of it. Right now things seem to have sorted out and each cat is pretty much in their normal nap spot. 

Peter was at NYCC yesterday signing at the Marvel Booth. We have a function we are attending today in the city so he stayed in overnight and Caroline and I will be joining him this afternoon.

Wednesday is Yom Kipper and Caroline has off from school.

Then there is the rest of the week with its various activities.

This weekend I didn’t get as much finished as I would like so I know I need to work on that but not castigate myself for it. That leads me into a downward spiral I don’t need in my life right now.

I feel back in balance for the first time in a long time. I just need to figure out how to stay here.

And we were back to kitty politics. Fig is having none of the kitten attacks and has growled Phoebe away from her.

I am grateful for opportunities and adventures.

Moving Forward and Not Looking Back

Posted By on October 5, 2019

I tend not to dwell on the past. It is a learned behavior because I use to let things that happened in the past overwhelms me. 

I learn from my past but I don’t live there.

I know people who do. It is the one chance that got away. If only I had… When I was…

They live in the past where they felt they were at the top of their game or their best self.

I have never felt that I have achieved my best self or work. There is always room for improvement. There is always something to learn. I am unfinished clay that will be worked until I expire.

There are skills I have pretty much perfected but I still learn new ways of doing things along with new materials that make my life easier.

I am always willing to teach how I do what I do. I am always willing to learn from others.

I have so much to look forward to in my life. I have so much I want to do and so much to do.

I am grateful for all the adventures I have awaiting me.

Happy Birthday Peter the 2019 edition

Posted By on September 23, 2019

Today is the Equinox. A day where the light and dark are balanced. To my friends celebrating the holiday, I wish you the best.

Today is also my Husband’s birthday. We have rough plans and a few things that are going to happen. I plan to make it a good day for him.

Dear Peter,

Happy Birthday! Made it around another rotation of the planet.

It has been an exciting year with lots of highs and lows. The highs out weighted the lows thank goodness.

We have done a lot of interesting things and gone on some real adventures since your last birthday. Some of these adventures we do not care to repeat and others we would be happy to do again.

I love you a little more every day.

I love working out plots and story ideas with you. I love bowling in league with you. I love our weird conversations that would sound strange to anyone listening in but make sense to us. I love how you dote on your children and grandchildren.

I love that you give me room to be me. I am not the easiest person to live with at times. I love that you encourage my creativity. There are times that you believe in what I can do more than I do but that makes me believe that I can do it. I love how well you know me.

Most people meet Peter David writer of stuff. But I know you as my husband and friend. The man who makes sure everyone else is OK before he tends to himself. The man who knows when you need a hug or a kind word.  And I love you for it.

I look forward to the next year in your life and am glad I can share it with you.

Love,

Kath

I am so very grateful that Peter is in my life,