Let it Snow Let it Snow Let it Snow
Posted By Kathleen David on January 22, 2005
I am betting we get next to nothing for snow today. Why, you may ask, with all the warnings and hoopla? Because every time this season they have been making predictions of the dire snowfall we have gotten squat. It goes to the north of Long Island. But they predicted a light dusting and we got 6 inches. Sure, the weather map looks like we are about to be hit but I am going to go on believing that it will not be a problem here. I will concede that the winds whipping up the snow can be a big problem because we have had only 2 inches of snow, which was a pain because of the wind.
Just in case, I am going to bring in a couple of things from my studio to work on in case the snows do come. I figured the more prepared I am for a storm the less likely we are to get one. As I type this the skies are getting darker and looking more like snow.
Caroline is turning into a bit of a Drama Queen. She is now setting herself up to look like she took a spill and then cries for someone to comfort her. It worked the first couple of times but I watched her fall and figured out she was doing it to herself. She now knows that we are on to her so she is not doing it as much. We have also been having a problem with her waking up in the middle of the night. She wants up and out and we have been trying to get her to go back to sleep. It worked last night but the night before she woke up at 4:15 and didn
We were expecting about two inches of snow on Thursday night, Friday morning. We got rain instead. There was some snow flurries all night and into the early morning, but it was wet and disappeared as soon as it touched ground. We get these kinds of false alarms around here all the time, which is why Bill Mulligan will never get his wish that Raleigh “invests in some equipment”.
Kath, I have a question, I’d like to ask you and any other married woman who reads your blog. I’m writing a wedding scene, and the bride and her maid of honor have gone into the house for the bride to change clothes. Question: What does she do with the wedding dress? I have her “packing it away” to save for her daughter’s wedding someday if she ever has a daughter. do women still save their wedding dresses and where do they put them after the wedding?
I know it sounds silly, but I’m not a woman and the closest I’ve ever been to being married was best man at my brother’s wedding. Help.
E-
I took my wedding dress off and while I was on my honeymoon my mother (bless her soul) had it cleaned and packed away in a box for long term storage. I brought it home and it is up in the closet in my bedroom. I haven’t a clue what I am going to do with it but it does have some very pleasent memories attached to it.
Kath
Thanks Kath. Don’t know why I missed something so simple, but I forgot that she has to have it cleaned before she can pack it away. Looks like I need to do a rewrite.
My wife wore a more informal dress for our wedding and she later used it as a prom dress (we chaperoned the prom every year).
Now the dress from her first marriage was stored away and eventually used for a Halloween contest. It’s still up in the attic, waiting to be dusted off for some other use (we half-considered using it in a low budget zombie movie that was shot down here a few months back).
Admittedly, our results are probably not typical…
Thanks Bill. I was just cruising “theknot” and …well, let me back up the boat for a moment and explain that I’m trying my hand at screenwriting. I seem to be very fond of romantic comedies (go figure). so I’m writing a screenplay loosely based on Shakespeare’s “Much Ado About Nothing” which has a wedding in it, and therefore a wedding gown. I find the KNOT a real helpful place for me to do research. In fact, I just found out that some enterprising women actually resale their gowns on places like eBay.
I find the amount of thought that women and men put into getting married hysterical and obviously fodder for future material. I only have one thing that I insist on when I get married, and my thoughts on it were solidified by a topic I saw on the KNOT’s message boards. “Should a woman take a man’s last name?” At the time, the thoughts were running 2 to 1 for taking his last name. I didn’t chime in, but taking my last name is an absolute deal breaker for me otherwise I don’t really see the point in being married. oh she could keep her name professionally, but when we’re introduced, it’s Mr. and Mrs. Clark.
I’ve ranted enough now, thanks again for the help.
I’m not trying to offend you here, EClark — honest, I’m not. I’m curious, though: why is taking your last name a deal-breaker?
Lisa kept her name (granted, “Lisa Hazard” just sounds innately cooler than “Lisa Lynch”) and I’ve never run into anyone who has a problem with it. Neither one of us is particularly adamant about it — I’ve got cousins who still address letters to “Tim and Lisa Lynch” and we generally don’t bother correcting them any more, for instance — but it is her name.
Some large fraction of our married friends have both people keeping their names — I don’t know if it’s half, but it’s substantial. Hëll, my mother kept her first married name when she got married a second time. I always found that kind of interesting.
(I could also mention one married couple we know where the groom took his wife’s name, but that was a decidedly special case.)
What makes it so critical for you?
TWL
I won’t marry a girl who won’t accept my last name as her own. Frankly, I don’t see the point. Really, sometimes I wonder why people even bother getting married anymore. It used to mean something to be married, now it’s just a “legal status”.
I admit, I’m a traditionalist, so if a woman wants to be my wife and not just my girlfriend, she’ll take my last name.
And if she could let me know before I invest a lot of time in the relationship it would be helpful too.
“While all answers are replies, not all replies are answers”
— Babylon 5
Again, I don’t mean to offend, but you haven’t really answered the question beyond “if she wants to be my wife, she’ll take my name.”
What is the big deal about a name? Is my marriage somehow less meaningful because we’ve got different last names? We’ve been married for almost 14 years, have built a life together and have a daughter. Why is the name even relevant at this point?
I’m not trying to attack. I’m just trying to understand, because lots of people have the same opinion you do and I’ve never really understood where it comes from.
What if a woman were equally insistent that the man take her name, for instance?
TWL
Tim:
What if your wife introduced herself to your friends as a “close friend of Tim’s” instead of as “your wife”? I view a rejection of my name as a symbolic rejection of me. It’s important to me that she accepts ALL of me, which includes my name. I might be a little more understanding if I had a wierd last name, but I don’t, and as I said, professionally, if she wants to keep her name, no problem. But socially, it’s all or nothing.
Fair enough. I guess I don’t see the name as particularly relevant in that regard — she certainly accepts my name, she just doesn’t use it, professionally or otherwise.
What about when a married couple combines their names and hyphenates (or combines it some other way, as a pair of people named Baxter and Beck did to become Baxterbeck)? Is that also a rejection, or would it be fine with you if your wife kept her name AND took yours? I’m not sure whether that counts as “all” in the “all or nothing” part.
(Then there’s one friend of mine who simply took his wife’s name, but that was somewhat different, as it was deliberately intended to be a giant “screw you” aimed at his father.)
TWL
Geez, Tim, I hope I don’t offend you, but why is it so important to you that I be flexible in whether or not a woman I want to marry accepts my last name? I mean, is it because i said it was a deal breaker? That’s not the only one I have. She has to stop seeing other men too ( or women if she swings that way). I’m even more inflexible on that point than the name thing. Hey, call me old-fashioned, but that’s just the way I am.
It’s not important to me that you be flexible, and I’m certainly not offended — I’m just trying to understand where that worldview comes from, as inflexibility on that particular point is just something that’s completely alien to me.
(For the record, I understand monogamy as a deal-breaker issue a whole lot more than I do the name thing. That’s a deal-breaker we’d agree upon, I think.)
TWL
“(For the record, I understand monogamy as a deal-breaker issue a whole lot more than I do the name thing. That’s a deal-breaker we’d agree upon, I think.)”
Well, you and I might, but I know some people who might consider the whole Idea of mongamy as a foreign concept and think that their sleeping around makes them appreciate each other all the more. I don’t understand the logic behind their statement, but as long as they leave me out of it. I don’t care what they do.